The Cumulative Power of Repetition
You’re heard the saying, “If you keep doing what you’ve been doing, you’ll keep getting what you’ve got.” This is absolutely true! And it’s GOOD NEWS! Usually this phrase is applied negatively to choices and actions that are not producing desired results – the implication that something different should be tried. But consider the power of […]
Get Your “But…” Out of the Rut
If you are tired of what you’re doing in the workplace, it’s time to get your “But…” out of the rut. You deserve to contribute in a meaningful and satisfying way. If you’re not having that experience in your work environment right now, it’s time to stop focusing on reasons why you can’t find something better […]
You Can’t Deny That You Have Wings
“When she transformed into a butterfly, the caterpillars spoke not of her beauty, but of her weirdness. They wanted her to change back into what she always had been. But she had wings…” Can we un-change what we’ve changed? Oh yeah – just asked any yo-yo dieter (present company included). What we cannot change, however, […]
The Message On The Back Window That I Will Never Forget
I like bumper stickers and vanity plates. They make stopping at red lights more interesting. Last week I saw a sedan with two bumper stickers, side by side. One said, “I’m Proud My Son is a Soldier”, and “Practice Random Acts of Kindness”. The contrast was intriguing. Several days later, as I was driving to […]
Is Anticipating Blessing the Same As Magical Thinking?
“Giving thanks for unknown blessings already on their way”??? I must admit when I first read this quote, I felt a rather child-like excitement; something akin to anticipating the arrival of Santa’s reindeer on the roof. It felt good to believe something magical was in the wind. But then I felt a bit uneasy. Life’s […]
Using Mistakes and Failure – Foundational to Success
If you’re not making mistakes or failing, then you’re living in a lukewarm comfort zone. It is impossible to be successful, creative, productive, or contributing without error or failure. I’ve never known a successful artist, athlete, chef, composer, scientist, engineer, designer, carpenter, salesperson, supervisor, or teacher that hasn’t tossed out numerous attempts until they got it “right”. […]
Decision-Making and the Change Process – the Power of Patience
Are the changes you want to make taking too long? If so, consider this – Cognitive neuroscience considers “patience” to be a decision-making dilemma. Having the option, research shows that all animals, including humans, tend to favor short-term rewards over long-term rewards; even if the greater benefit is associated with the long term reward. Patience […]
How to Speed Up the Change Process
How do you speed up the internal change process? There are two essential ingredients: (1) Deal with what you believe about your past. (2) See yourself clearly now. What you believe about your past Any beliefs about our Self, our relationships, and our world that keep us from optimal health and happiness in the present, find […]
How to Turn Regret Into Celebration
It is important as we reflect on the choices that we make to do so for only two purposes (1) to celebrate and reinforce the choices that have improved our quality of life and (2) to learn from the choices that did not serve us well, in order to make better choices in the future. When […]
Processing Life As It Is – Not As You Wish It To Be
This does not mean we are to be passive, compliant, or inactive. Rather we are to be the opposite – to be engaged, assertive, and active. Note Dr. Wayne Dyer’s quote – “Peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be.” says to […]
