Decision-Making and the Change Process – the Power of Patience
Are the changes you want to make taking too long? If so, consider this – Cognitive neuroscience considers “patience” to be a decision-making dilemma. Having the option, research shows that all animals, including humans, tend to favor short-term rewards over long-term rewards; even if the greater benefit is associated with the long term reward. Patience […]
How to Win in the Shame and Blame Game
This week I had a shocking and sad experience. The first (and only, I wish!) of its kind for me. Unexpectedly several family members responded to a posting on my Facebook page, which they had misinterpreted. The venomous sermons, screamed from very high horses, laced with profanity and name-calling, punctuated with stinging accusations, attempting to […]
How to Speed Up the Change Process
How do you speed up the internal change process? There are two essential ingredients: (1) Deal with what you believe about your past. (2) See yourself clearly now. What you believe about your past Any beliefs about our Self, our relationships, and our world that keep us from optimal health and happiness in the present, find […]
How Do You Know You’re Reaching For the Right Goal?
How do you know you’re reaching for the right goal? As we are moving toward an especially important goal, we often encounter obstacles. In fact, the more important the goal, the more likely we are to encounter obstacles. So how do we know if an obstacle is telling us that the goal is incorrect? We […]
Peyton Manning Guide to Leadership and Living Well
There’s been a lot of discussion and little disagreement about Peyton Manning’s leadership skills. Raised with solid family values and a passion for athletics, Manning has become one of the most significant sports role models of this era. Various writers have chosen the qualities they believe stand out in Manning. Jeff Begwold writes in the […]
How to Turn Regret Into Celebration
It is important as we reflect on the choices that we make to do so for only two purposes (1) to celebrate and reinforce the choices that have improved our quality of life and (2) to learn from the choices that did not serve us well, in order to make better choices in the future. When […]
Why Do We Choose the Opposite of What We Really Want?
There is a basic, instinctive intelligence, that resides in our unconscious mind; it holds the wisdom we need to live our highest quality of life. We were born with this wisdom. So why do we make choices that are the opposite of what we really want? When our lives are not working well – when […]
Processing Life As It Is – Not As You Wish It To Be
This does not mean we are to be passive, compliant, or inactive. Rather we are to be the opposite – to be engaged, assertive, and active. Note Dr. Wayne Dyer’s quote – “Peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be.” says to […]
An Alternative to Avoiding a Problem
This morning it was 21 degrees in Denver. Quite the contrast from last week. Last week I was in Ft. Lauderdale having lunch with several friends on Las Olas Boulevard, not far from the beach. We were at a restaurant we had been to before. This time the service was very poor. Two meals had […]
What Will You Give Yourself Today?
I called one of my credit card customer service representatives this morning to make sure a payment had been received and processed. I was assured everything had processed correctly. She then asked if I needed any additional assistance, which I did not need. Then she said something really interesting – “Please give yourself a wonderful […]
