Is Anticipating Blessing the Same As Magical Thinking?
“Giving thanks for unknown blessings already on their way”??? I must admit when I first read this quote, I felt a rather child-like excitement; something akin to anticipating the arrival of Santa’s reindeer on the roof. It felt good to believe something magical was in the wind. But then I felt a bit uneasy. Life’s […]
Using Mistakes and Failure – Foundational to Success
If you’re not making mistakes or failing, then you’re living in a lukewarm comfort zone. It is impossible to be successful, creative, productive, or contributing without error or failure. I’ve never known a successful artist, athlete, chef, composer, scientist, engineer, designer, carpenter, salesperson, supervisor, or teacher that hasn’t tossed out numerous attempts until they got it “right”. […]
Decision-Making and the Change Process – the Power of Patience
Are the changes you want to make taking too long? If so, consider this – Cognitive neuroscience considers “patience” to be a decision-making dilemma. Having the option, research shows that all animals, including humans, tend to favor short-term rewards over long-term rewards; even if the greater benefit is associated with the long term reward. Patience […]
How Do You Know You’re Reaching For the Right Goal?
How do you know you’re reaching for the right goal? As we are moving toward an especially important goal, we often encounter obstacles. In fact, the more important the goal, the more likely we are to encounter obstacles. So how do we know if an obstacle is telling us that the goal is incorrect? We […]
Peyton Manning Guide to Leadership and Living Well
There’s been a lot of discussion and little disagreement about Peyton Manning’s leadership skills. Raised with solid family values and a passion for athletics, Manning has become one of the most significant sports role models of this era. Various writers have chosen the qualities they believe stand out in Manning. Jeff Begwold writes in the […]
How to Turn Regret Into Celebration
It is important as we reflect on the choices that we make to do so for only two purposes (1) to celebrate and reinforce the choices that have improved our quality of life and (2) to learn from the choices that did not serve us well, in order to make better choices in the future. When […]
Why Do We Choose the Opposite of What We Really Want?
There is a basic, instinctive intelligence, that resides in our unconscious mind; it holds the wisdom we need to live our highest quality of life. We were born with this wisdom. So why do we make choices that are the opposite of what we really want? When our lives are not working well – when […]
An Alternative to Avoiding a Problem
This morning it was 21 degrees in Denver. Quite the contrast from last week. Last week I was in Ft. Lauderdale having lunch with several friends on Las Olas Boulevard, not far from the beach. We were at a restaurant we had been to before. This time the service was very poor. Two meals had […]
