Waiting For The Light To Change
“If we could look at each others hearts, and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care.” Marvin J Ashton Earlier this week, I was waiting for the light to change as I watched people cross in front […]
Six Absolute Facts About Aging
Let’s stop cursing the aging process. This month is my birthday. (Gifts, cards, and parties are welcome!) I will turn 59. One year before 60. I’m apprehensive. Not sure what my 60’s will be like. I’ve heard from friends and family that the 60’s are great. That’s my hope. No crystal ball. I’ll keep you posted. […]
Is Anticipating Blessing the Same As Magical Thinking?
“Giving thanks for unknown blessings already on their way”??? I must admit when I first read this quote, I felt a rather child-like excitement; something akin to anticipating the arrival of Santa’s reindeer on the roof. It felt good to believe something magical was in the wind. But then I felt a bit uneasy. Life’s […]
Using Mistakes and Failure – Foundational to Success
If you’re not making mistakes or failing, then you’re living in a lukewarm comfort zone. It is impossible to be successful, creative, productive, or contributing without error or failure. I’ve never known a successful artist, athlete, chef, composer, scientist, engineer, designer, carpenter, salesperson, supervisor, or teacher that hasn’t tossed out numerous attempts until they got it “right”. […]
Decision-Making and the Change Process – the Power of Patience
Are the changes you want to make taking too long? If so, consider this – Cognitive neuroscience considers “patience” to be a decision-making dilemma. Having the option, research shows that all animals, including humans, tend to favor short-term rewards over long-term rewards; even if the greater benefit is associated with the long term reward. Patience […]
How to Win in the Shame and Blame Game
This week I had a shocking and sad experience. The first (and only, I wish!) of its kind for me. Unexpectedly several family members responded to a posting on my Facebook page, which they had misinterpreted. The venomous sermons, screamed from very high horses, laced with profanity and name-calling, punctuated with stinging accusations, attempting to […]
How to Turn Regret Into Celebration
It is important as we reflect on the choices that we make to do so for only two purposes (1) to celebrate and reinforce the choices that have improved our quality of life and (2) to learn from the choices that did not serve us well, in order to make better choices in the future. When […]
Why Do We Choose the Opposite of What We Really Want?
There is a basic, instinctive intelligence, that resides in our unconscious mind; it holds the wisdom we need to live our highest quality of life. We were born with this wisdom. So why do we make choices that are the opposite of what we really want? When our lives are not working well – when […]
Processing Life As It Is – Not As You Wish It To Be
This does not mean we are to be passive, compliant, or inactive. Rather we are to be the opposite – to be engaged, assertive, and active. Note Dr. Wayne Dyer’s quote – “Peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be.” says to […]
An Alternative to Avoiding a Problem
This morning it was 21 degrees in Denver. Quite the contrast from last week. Last week I was in Ft. Lauderdale having lunch with several friends on Las Olas Boulevard, not far from the beach. We were at a restaurant we had been to before. This time the service was very poor. Two meals had […]
