How Sacrifice Can Be Toxic in Relationships
Are You Being Used or Abused? We place a high value on “sacrifice”. We sacrifice for our nation, our children, our career. We believe it’s the “right” thing to do. I’d like to suggest that sacrifice is not always virtuous, rather it can be “toxic”. Here’s why. Sacrifice results in guilt and resentment. It breeds […]
Positive Psychology – A Groundbreaking Shift in Focus
In the previous centuries, Western medicine studied health primarily in relationship to death and disease. It is from that orientation that psychology evolved. As there are now shifts in medical science, focusing more resources on preventive medicine, health maintenance, and anti-aging, psychology is following suit. Moving away from studying the human experience from the focal […]
Why are Some People Just So Charming?
Do you ever wonder what that “magic” is that causes some people to attract others so easily to themselves? We describe them as charming, personable, or magnetic. Do you ever question why you’re not attracting the kind of relationships, personally or professionally, that you desire and deserve in your life? There are actually scientific, behavioral studies […]
Moving Your Life Forward From the Inside Out
If this past year did not bring to you the progress you wanted, or if you want to accelerate your progress in the coming year, I want to encourage you to look at “Vision, Goals & Self Evaluation: A Guide to Self Assessment and Personal Growth”, by Danny Ballard. “I believe that each person has a unique set […]
Father’s Day – Rejected By My Father
I was rejected at birth by my father. This message is – on the Dedication page of my book, “FREED from Stuck!”. It speaks for itself. I never knew my birth father. Born in the fifties “out of wedlock”, I was a shame to him and to my birth mother. In loving contrast, John William Hayes, the […]
How the Five Most Influential People In Your Life Impact Your Aging
I’ve been thinking about relationships a lot this week. Last Monday the HBO documentary was released, “If You’re Not In The Obit, Eat Breakfast”. It featured Tony Bennett, Mel Brooks, Kirk Douglas, Irving Fields, Stan Harper, Norman Lear, Dick Van Dyke and Betty White, among others. In the film, Carl Reiner asks the question: “What’s the secret […]
FREED from Stuck! Dare to Cross the Bridge Beyond Grief, Trauma, and Self-Sabotage to Discover Lasting Change Now
Have you been wondering why you keep getting passed-up for that big promotion at work? Why do you start a new diet or exercise routine only to find it ending before it begins? Are you frustrated because you keep choosing dissatisfying relationships? Are you tired of self-sabotage, procrastination, disorganization, feeling out of control and generally […]
My Devoted Friend or My Worst Foe – I Choose
Now you know I’m writing a book – soon to be released in just a few weeks. One of the essential (and sometimes most disheartening) ingredients in the change process that I’ll be going into more deeply will be . . . . . . The power of developing effective habits to create and sustain change – not just as […]
Five Lessons Learned From the Geese
Yesterday morning I attended a presentation, hosted by the Sisters of St. Joseph of Carondelet, on matching resources with needs at a global level. With newly developed technology and international networking, churches, charities, and donors can be more quickly matched up with needs around the world. More accurate measurement data can now be compiled to assure funds given toward these needs […]
Four Agreements That Would Transform the Political Landscape
Today I completed my mail-in ballot for 2016. I’m kind of a political junkie, so I was informed about the candidates. I researched the judges and studied the pros and cons of the amendments. I felt good that I had voted thoughtfully and responsibly. We’re living in a chaotic time of change. I’m actually excited about […]
