How to Transform Politics (and Other Dysfunctional Relationships)
I find politics interesting. I also find it informative, challenging, thought-provoking, and crazy-making. There’s often more talking then listening going on. And there’s a lot of rehearsal about what is to be said, rather than impromptu understanding of what needs to be heard. Politicians are seldom fully present in the moment. I began to imagine […]
Using Disappointment to Leverage Success
We are instinctively created, as part of our basic survival, to avoid pain. We will do everything we can to push it away – blame, project, shame, deny, minimize, berate, distract, and medicate, just to name a few of our strategies. Yet when disappointment happens – and it will happen – in every setting and […]
The Two Most Powerful Factors That Determine Success in Marriage
Statistically today, 3 in 10 marriages remain healthy and happy, according to “The Science of Happily Ever After” by Ty Tashiro. So what’s happening in the other 7? How do you safeguard and sustain a healthy partnership? And what is the number one factor that most brings down a relationship? In the 70’s, a significant […]
The Value of Poor Choices (or Stop Feeding Your Inner Piggies)
I know people who feel like they’ve wasted years of their lives because of poor choices. They spent years in a relationship that was toxic, years with an addiction, years at a job where they weren’t fulfilled. But you have to realize, nothing you have been through is ever wasted. Your past experiences, good and […]
The Most Powerful Motivator in Business
Mary Kay Ash, founder of Mary Kay Cosmetics, once said, “There are two things people want more than sex and money…recognition and praise.” I’m not sure that’s true, but it’s worth considering. What has been proven in research is that the one motivating factor at the top of most employee lists is appreciation. It is actually […]
You First Heard My Heart From Inside My Body
“No one else will ever know the strength of my love for you. After all, you’re the only one who knows what my heart sounds like from the inside.” Mother’s Day is a day when we honor our relationships with our mothers. We pay tribute to the woman whose heart we first heard from inside […]
How to Supercharge Your Business Through Accountability
Accountability is not about blame, and it is not about someone policing your business, rather it is about . . . Support, encouragement, and focus. Several years ago, I discovered an organization called Make-It-Fly. The purpose of the organization was to help small businesses grow in a supportive and confidential environment. With a combination of education, skill […]
Just Be There
Never underestimate the power of just being there for someone. Not doing anything, not fixing anything. Perhaps not even saying anything. Just being . . . . . . present. Available. Listening. I’ve had some loved ones going through some difficult times this past week. They had the courage to reach out on Facebook, without […]
How to Find Out What They Really Want and Close the Deal
Yesterday I was having a conversation with a potential landscaper/gardener. Obviously he was eager to impress me with his experience, skills, and pricing. He was a very pleasant man, appearing quite capable, with one annoying habit. . . . . . He kept interrupting or talking over me. I’ve seen this happen with professional interviewers. […]
Those Angel Eyes
You know that moment. You enter your door, and there are those adorable eyes looking at you with eager anticipation. Perhaps there’s even some bouncing and jumping going on. Perhaps a wagging tail or soft purring. Yes, it’s really an angel in disguise to remind you that you are loved, appreciated, and wanted – as […]
